Unmotivated
Posted: July 25, 2013 Filed under: The Story of a Mother, War and Peace Leave a commentEvery physical reminder I have of Christian fits into a box that sits on top of our piano. So sometimes I begin to wonder if I made the whole thing up. I was pregnant, right? Did this really happen? The world keeps going on, but it seems like I’m stuck dwelling on Christian’s death. Is that normal? Am I going crazy (again)? Should I have somehow gotten over it and moved on by now?
I feel suspended – unable to convince myself to be productive, or to be social, or to cope. Day after day passes by while I do nothing. I’ve had so many wasted days lately, and I certainly would rather be a normal person again but the motivation to even try just isn’t there. Instead I make occasional tiny efforts at keeping up with life, distract myself with books or painting or sleep or food (randomly, I have a newfound love of dry roasted peanuts and macadamia nuts), and keep . . . waiting. Waiting to feel better or just to feel willing to try feeling better.
I know: I ought to throw myself into something; once I start, I will feel a little bit better. Logic and depression just aren’t friends, though. I absolutely don’t want to do anything, except wait.
Despite
Posted: July 12, 2013 Filed under: War and Peace 1 CommentTonight I had a ladies’ night out with three of my old roommates. We had dinner, watched a movie, ate brownies and ice cream, and had fun visiting.
Despite that, I want to cry.
So many people I know are pregnant or just had babies and it’s so hard not to feel jealous.
Despite that, I design baby announcements and throw baby showers and give baby gifts.
Being a grown-up is hard because nothing makes sense.
Tact
Posted: July 12, 2013 Filed under: Dangerous Book for Boys, The Story of a Mother 1 CommentYesterday Evan saw this picture of Christian on the computer.
He started laughing. “Christian’s nose looks like a pig nose because it doesn’t have any of these!” [sticks a finger in each nostril]
Only a 4 year old could get away with saying that. Thanks for keepin’ it real, Evan.