Least helpful visit ever

You probably saw on Facebook that I went to talk to a counselor on campus last week. I was at the end of my rope, feeling overwhelmed with my life and ready to drop out of school. The counselor was a great listener – but I actually went because I needed advice or at least encouragement. Here’s a sample of the suggestions she gave me:

  • Try to take things one day at a time.
  • Try to take things one week at a time.
  • Keep a detailed calendar.
  • Block off sections of time for just school work, just family, etc. (She actually told me to try ignoring the kids for 2 hours every day so I could study.)
  • Talk to an academic counselor.
  • Talk to a stress counselor.
  • Attend a stress management workshop.
  • Just make it to the end of the semester.
  • Do my best.
  • Spend more time relaxing.
  • Have pizza and salad for dinner instead of cooking.
  • Care less about grades.
  • Accept that my grades might be bad this semester.
  • Accept that my life is difficult.
  • Accept that my best might not be enough.
  • Come talk to her again.

It was definitely an experience. I ended up telling her that I had really hoped for some secret trick that would put my life back into balance, and she turned the question around and asked what I thought would be helpful. You know what she didn’t suggest, that I came up with? Asking friends and family for help. I hate to do that because everyone else is crazy-busy too – but we’ll see how it goes. My own suggestion seems to be working a little better than all of hers.

So, I didn’t end up quitting school, but I did miss one of my classes to talk to her. I’m not sure yet if it was worth it!

Edit: I forgot, after I told her I probably needed some help this was her bit of widsom:

  • People will dislike me if they think I’m handling all of this on my own.
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3 Comments on “Least helpful visit ever”

  1. Brian says:

    How could you leave out that last one, and have to edit it back in? “People will dislike me…” is the suggestion that turns this from “sadly amusing” to “uproariously farcical.”

  2. Mika says:

    The description “uproariously farcical” has made my whole day better. Thank you. And thanks to the counselor, too, for being uproariously farcical.

  3. KHL says:

    This fits right in with my years of experience with counselors / therapists. At least 95% of them are useless and borderline stupid. Sometimes you just want to ask if they’ve ever listened to themselves. What I really want to know is, do most people have the same reaction to these least-helpful suggestions as we do? Or do the suggestions actually seem helpful to others?


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